Article written for the former Helium.com
Stand-up comedian Jerry Seinfeld has been known to make a joke or two about men and women. After all, he is the creator of the new reality series “The Marriage Ref.” In the words of Seinfeld: “The basic conflict between men and women, sexually, is that men are like firemen, and women are like fire. To men, sex is an emergency, and no matter what we’re doing we can be ready in two minutes. Women, on the other hand, are like fire. They’re very exciting, but the conditions have to be exactly right for it to occur.” Likewise, Will Rogers once said that people never laugh at anything that’s not associated with truth.
There may be some truth within Seinfeld’s joke, for women and men tend to feel and behave differently at varying times when it comes to the subject of sex. When in a monogamous relationship, women are often perceived as having less of a sex drive than their counterpart. There are many factors that may or may not contribute to one’s sex drive. One factor of recent discussion and debate is the amount a person sleeps vs. his or her sex drive.
The National Sleep Foundation (NSF) recently released the results of the 2010 Sleep in America poll. The poll consisted of 1,007 telephone interviews with Whites, Blacks, Asians, and Hispanics between the ages of 25-60. Each of the four ethnic groups were equally represented within the study. While the results imply that each ethnicity receives more or less sleep in comparison to one another, there is a common factor amongst each group. As stated in the 2010 Sleep in America Poll Release, “Among married people or couples living together, all ethnic groups report being too tired for sex frequently (21- 26% of the time).”
Indeed, the study provides a way for each ethnicity to relate to one another. Nevertheless, it is important to question which came first, the chicken or the egg. In other words, does sleep deprivation lessen someone’s sex drive, or are there other important aspects that lead to a decrease in libido? Furthermore, a person’s sexuality may be intact; yet, he or she may claim to feel “too tired” simply due to problems or circumstances existent within the relationship.
Overall, no matter what, sleeping is essential to one’s health. But, when it comes to questioning whether or not sleeping’s related to one’s sexual desire, anything is possible. Comical yet truthful, Seinfeld’s joke about men, women, and fire might be right on the money. If unfamiliar with Seinfeld’s stand-up, take a look at the episode entitled “The Yada Yada” of the ever-so-popular NBC sitcom, Seinfeld.
While watching the (153rd) episode, George, Elaine, and Jerry have a discussion pertaining to sex. George is currently dating a girl named Marcy. While talking with Elaine and Jerry, George says: “Marcy comes over and she tells me that her ex-boyfriend was over late last night and ‘yada yada yada I’m really tired today.’ You don’t think she’d yada yada sex?” Following George, Elaine replies, “I’ve yada yada’d sex.” She goes on to say, “I met this lawyer, we went out to dinner, I had the lobster bisque, we went back to my place, yada yada yada, I never heard from him again.” And, in response, Jerry says, “But you yada yada’d over the best part.” Classically, Elaine responds, “No, I mentioned the bisque.”
Although Seinfeld is a former sitcom depicted as a show about ‘nothing,’ it may be insightful to consider the thoughts of Will Rogers. Perhaps ‘nothing’ is essentially ‘something’ of importance. Case in point: If in a relationship, take the risk to delve into the topic of sex, especially if experiencing less than desirable. There are many books that may be of help to couples or individuals. Furthermore, it is always wise to keep an open-mind when it comes to sex; perhaps one partner has different needs or desires than another. Open communication is essential in a relationship. After all, no one wants to be a part of ‘yada yada yada.’